Do you struggle with your identity as a human-doing instead of a human-being? Do you measure your success by what you have accomplished versus who or Whose you are? Do you live in a constant state of defeat?
I have had so many days where my mental to-do list looks exactly the same as it did the day before. Because yesterday fell apart. Like exploded in my face. It probably would have been better if I had just not gotten out of bed. What’s worse, is that I carry an emotional hang-over the next day and feel rather miserable about myself because I didn’t get anything done. In those moments, I find myself spiraling downward and questioning everything about myself. “What am I even doing? I am so worthless! How come everyone else can do this and I can’t?! What is wrong with me?” Left unchecked, this negative self-talk can paralyze me for days. Can you relate?
Let’s change it! You are more than what you do and part of my goal is to help you by spreading new ideas of how to do things, so that you can focus more on who you are. But I want to be careful that discussing HOW to do something does not become one more standard for you to live up to, rather than a life-giving resource to help you excel in your role. The last thing you or I need is to feel we have one more burden to bear or expectation to live up to.
To me, HOW = Hope of Winning. When I learn HOW to do something, I have knowledge that I can actually use to accomplish what I am setting out to do. If I accomplish what I need to do in a quick, efficient, and successful manner, I am freed up to focus on more important things like being present for my kids, being focused at work, being fully available for my husband, and pursuing my dreams. When I find out HOW a winner does it, it gives me HOPE that I can WIN! And winning looks like many different things: success, joy, rest, completion, advancement, peace, sleep, love, slower pace, etc. You define what winning looks like!
So don’t let my HOW or your HOW or anyone’s HOW become a burden or a standard for you to live by. Let it signal HOPE of WINNING for you!
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