When Is It Okay To Hire Help?

5 Questions To Help You Decide

In our family, when our home feels chaotic, messy and out of control, we feel that way too. Imagine if your desk at work was covered in toys, laundry, food crumbs, and piles of paperwork. Could you do your best work in that environment? (If so, please tell me your secrets!) Now, my definition of clean has taken several HUGE steps down the continuum towards imperfection rather than perfection, but it still needs to be cleaned every once in awhile. Boys, anyone? Soap scum? Fingerprints everywhere? When I have a clean house, I feel more relaxed, focused, and patient. Everyone in my family benefits! Sometimes, however, life throws you some curve balls or gets really, really full and the beautiful peaceful home that you love, becomes a nightmare of to do lists and you just can’t get it all done. You need some help! But, when is it okay to hire help?

If you are wondering if it is okay to hire help, here are 5 questions to help you decide:

  1. Which part of your household duties contribute the most stress, domination of your time, or burden on your family, that if relieved, could significantly alter the functioning of your household? This will help guide you to pick the biggest impact on your home. If you are married, this may be different for both of you so be sure to rank their priority of importance for your entire household.
  2. Can I/we afford it? This is pretty straightforward, but if you are going into debt to make this happen, then the timing is not best right now. But, if you’d rather have a clean house than a cable bill, you might consider adjusting your expenses. I use EveryDollar to easily make a zero-based budget so I can better know what we are spending our money on. I helps me to adjust the amount in each category so I can find the extra funds to hire some help.
  3. Will this hinder my/our family goals? Sometimes we can afford it after adjusting some expenses, but it ends up sabotaging our bigger goals. Maybe it’s paying off debt or saving for a vacation or a new car. Or maybe it’s teaching the kids some work ethic or yourself some discipline. Be honest about your priorities and spend your money and energy on what is most important right now.
  4. Will this add to my/our quality of life? I prefer to make decisions about money based upon whether it will add to quality of life. I really dislike ‘stuff’ because I suddenly have one more thing taking up space in my life that I have to care for. I do however, highly value things that significantly add to the quality of my life. House cleaning is at the top of my list. Other things like childcare for intentional date nights, products or services that help me stay organized and productive, and anything that is a time-saver and stress-reducer in my everyday life also fit the bill.
  5. Does this have lasting effects? I want my decisions to have positive outcomes and consequences. When we spend hard earned money, I want it to have lasting effects as much as possible. When I am looking at hiring help, I want to know that it will actually make an impact in our own life of in the lives of people where we have influence. By hiring help, I free up time to spend relationally with my family. By hiring help, I’m employing someone else, who now has the dignity of making their own money to provide for their family. By hiring help, I can rest or focus on other needs of our household of our community.

Take these 5 quick action steps to know if you are ready to hire help:

  • Do a quick audit of your household to see where you could use the most help.
  • Do a budget to know if you can afford it.
  • Prioritize your goals to know if this is the next right step.
  • Decide if this will affect your quality of life in a positive way.
  • Decide if the impact on yourself or others is worth the cost.

If the answer to those five filters is, YES, then start hiring some help today!

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5 thoughts on “When Is It Okay To Hire Help?

  1. I love this topic. I remember when I realized that hiring help didn’t mean that I wasn’t a good wife/mother and the release of stress that came with walking into a clean house after a busy day at work.

    We made the decision several years ago (when it was just two of us) to hire a housekeeper. My husband was reluctant at first but after the first couple visits, he agrees it’s one of the best decisions we’ve ever made. Not only do his clothes get cleaned and folded and put away, but when the house is clean, I’m literally a nicer person, and a happier person, and that makes him happier, too.

    We’ve had our housekeeper with us now for 7 years, and once we saw the positive impact of having help, we’ve actually increased the frequency that she comes.

    The financial decision was definitely the most important to weed through. But I will say that the ROI we’ve realized over time is has proven time and again that it’s been worth the cost.

    • So great to hear and I think what you said about realizing that hiring help doesn’t mean you are not a good wife/mother is so on point! I wonder if you have any insight for Suzi’s comment, too.

  2. Hey Emily!
    So, my husband and I have totally different opinions abour what’s important. He really wants direcTV, because he’s a huge fan of football and doesn’t want to go without, however I would love to have my house cleaned at least one-two time(s)/month. I’m curious what you’d say when our ideas of where the budget goes are so drastically different!!

    • Oh Suzi! I feel you. It is so hard when you are not united on the budget and have such differing perspectives. I have to say, I do not have a sports fanatic husband so I would love for someone else to chime in here. But, we have had numerous “discussions” about where our money goes. 🙂 To be honest, the first time I ever hired a housekeeper, I used my birthday/Christmas gift money. I decided that’s what I wanted to do with it and it made it a non-budgeted item. From there, our budget meetings have phrases like “I would love for you to consider…” OR “It would mean a lot to me if we could find money for this….” Sometimes, if we focus on what we think they should give up, we put them on the defensive and negate our opportunity to truly ask for their help. I also start new things as a “trial run” so it doesn’t have to be a long term commitment. Maybe you start with hiring someone one time before the holidays and see how it goes. I think I’ll have to write another post about this. 😉 Thanks for joining in on the conversation!!!

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